Christian Counseling Durham, NC: Jesus Be a Fence! Boundaries

You’ve been looking for Christian Counseling in Durham, NC, and would specifically love to work with a Black therapist. You know Jesus for yourself and you are looking for some support to live into all that Christ called you to be. Sometimes you wonder if “a little more Jesus” is all you need. But you’ve tried that. Praying more isn’t the only way to experience God’s peace. Worshiping and engaging in church activities are not the only ways to know God as your Mind Regulator. There’s no shortage of churches in Durham, NC but the church is not the only place to work out your healing. You are ready to do your work with a good fit, Black therapist in Durham, NC who gets it! You want both Jesus and Therapy, and I’m here to help you see that you can have both and that this is a faithful response to treating your temple with the honor and respect you deserve. One way we can keep our God-given temples well is by implementing boundaries. Yes, boundaries. After all, how many times have you said “Jesus be a fence”? ;-)

Help, Lord, I need some boundaries.

Boundaries, boundaries, boundaries! The word of the day. We all talk about them, but few of us know how to create and implement them. Do you think Jesus had boundaries? Do you think we should have boundaries as Christians? I see 3 reasons that boundaries can be important to your spiritual life and mental health.

Boundaries help us honor God and protect ourselves

Setting boundaries may not be easy, but they help us set healthy limits in our relationships and prioritize our well-being, which ultimately allows us to better serve God and others. I recall Jesus stealing away to pray in the Garden of Gethsemane.

Boundaries help us avoid unhealthy patterns and behaviors

One missing piece in boundary setting is communicating your needs and expectations(boundaries) to those involved. When we set boundaries we practice another core healthy relationship skill - good communication. Sometimes when we don’t communicate our boundaries we wind up coming across as passive-aggressive. Another possible consequence is you wind up feeling taken advantage of or not fully appreciated because no one knew what you were expecting. Boundaries are not merely limits, they can be guidelines and expectations. By exploring our boundaries we set up a foundation for healthy relational patterns and behaviors. Earlier, I asked, Do you think Jesus had boundaries? Well, I think there are countless examples of Jesus’ boundaries throughout the New Testament, but more importantly, when I read the Bible I see God communicating boundaries to us as well. It’s not about law, but the spirit of the law….which if you observe can be viewed as guidelines for Kingdom living. As a Christian, I want to make sure I honor the boundaries God gives me for myself, but I also want to learn to love my neighbor well by setting good boundaries with others. I’ve worked very hard on my boundaries both personally and professionally. As a Christian Therapist, I would love to journey with you towards healing past hurts and relational traumas, by working with you through Christian Counseling in Durham, NC, which you can access virtually anywhere in the state of NC.

Boundaries help us cultivate authenticity and vulnerability

"To thine own self be true," but how if you do not know yourself and you can’t honor who you are? Setting boundaries is crucial but hard work. This is because we often think boundaries start with others, but they start with us. When we can start exploring our limits and expectations with ourselves, we will lean more into who we are at our core. This then can open up space to share more deeply and authentically with others. Good, strong boundaries start with a healthy sense of self, your needs, and your values. If you are feeling stuck in your personal development, experiencing relational conflicts, or feeling stressed, overwhelmed and purposeless, starting to explore your boundaries and how they impact your mental health and well-being might be the place to start. I can help you with that if you are interested in working with a Black Therapist in Durham, NC. Even Jesus needed solitude (Luke 4:42-44) to be with his Father and set his mind on things above in service of fulfilling his divine purpose. If you need space to set your mind on first things first, prayer is a great place to start, therapy can be a place to dig deep and continue the work. I am waiting for you with Christian Counseling in Durham, NC.

Get Boundaries through Christian Counseling in Durham, NC

I hope you understand the beauty of boundaries and that they are God’s way of helping us to protect ourselves and each other as well as equipping us to be prepared to serve and honor the Lord. Without appropriate boundaries, you could very likely burn yourself out. Sometimes our symptoms of mental and emotional distress can be alleviated by setting boundaries with ourselves and others. If you need help becoming more aware of your patterns and behaviors so that you can grow stronger in healthily implementing boundaries, reach out to me today. Perhaps one boundary you can start with is carving out a regular and prioritized time that is dedicated to your mental health and wellness. I am a Black Therapist in Durham, NC specializing in working with Black Christian moms and people of faith seeking Christian Counseling in Durham, NC. If you want to work with me, contact me today to see if my services are right for you. Jesus can be a fence, I can teach you how to let him be.